Emotional Eating is NOT the Enemy

Emotional eating is not the enemy (and how to make it an ally)

I know how much pain emotional eating has caused you – it feels like a punishment and a comfort all at the same time and can almost be crazy making. And, I want you to know emotional eating is not the enemy.  It’s so hard to see emotional eating as anything but the enemy when you’ve struggled with food for so long and have so much stress over how you look, what you weigh, etc. Oh honey, I know! I’ve been there so many, many times. But, emotional eating is actually your ally. She is your body’s incredibly intuitive alarm system that lets you know when you have an unacknowledged need. It is our body’s way of saying, “Hey! Hey! Have you seen this? Are…
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Wanna know how an emotional eating expert emotionally eats?

Wanna know how an emotional eating expert emotionally eats?

If you think someday you’re going to arrive at a place in your life where you never emotionally eat again, then think again. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but the truth of the matter is EVERYONE emotionally eats from time to time. We are emotional beings and so, technically, all eating is emotional. I used to compulsively emotionally eat – my emotional eating controlled my life. I felt possessed by food. Then I did a crap-ton (yes that’s an actual measurement) of self-development work and realized what was truly driving my emotional eating. Spoiler alert, it was a lot of negative self-talk, a major lack of self-care and some twisted beliefs about food that I had to unlearn!! And, today, I still emotionally…
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Why “intuitive eating” doesn’t work for you

I have clients tell me all the time that they are trying to practice “intuitive eating” but time and again end up bingeing and compulsively emotionally eating. What is so much more important than what or how you eat is the place from which you are coming from when you eat. Are you coming from a place of self-hatred or a place of self-love? Intuitive eating from a place of self-hatred is no better than being on a 600 calorie a day diet. You can’t normalize your relationship to food and get to your set point weight from a place of self-hatred (need more info on set point weight and why diets don’t work click here). Self-hatred is what keeps us in diet…
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Would you like to kick your Inner Critic in the butt?

Would you like to kick your Inner Critic in the butt?!?

A few days ago I had BAD morning. Like, an out of coffee, fell on the ice, stuck in traffic, lost my keys kind of bad morning. I was sore, mad, tired, and stressed out! As I was driving home from an early meeting, which somehow I survived without coffee, I could feel my Inner Critic prancing around in my mind. “Look at you…you can’t do anything right! This day is going to suck!” she smirked at me. The morning I had just experienced was like a fancy party in her world. All of her favorite guests were present – Frustration, Pain, Anger, Anxiety, and of course Pessimism. When I got home I had 10 minutes before I needed to hop on…
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Why rules around food don't actually work

Why rules around food don’t actually work

Rules* around food don’t work. If they worked you wouldn’t have issues with food and weight. Because you’ve probably put more rules around food than just about any other area of your life. And, most people with food and body image issues are really good at following rules. We don’t often fall into the rebellious-give-no-fudge-balls-camp. More often than not we are the do our best, work hard, perfectionistic types that want to please everyone and everything. When you put rules around food you aren’t allowing yourself to listen to your body and this is where the trouble with bingeing comes in. Because, inevitably, when you put rules around food you will break a rule. And by the mere fact of…
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Will 2016 be the year you stop worrying about food?

Will 2016 be the year you stop worrying about food?

You have 2 options for 2016… Continue doing what you’ve been doing (putting rules around food, disliking your body, feeling stress about what you can/can’t eat) OR Do something drastically differently (deal with the real issues driving emotional eating, learn how to eat intuitively, stop body-shaming yourself) And, yes it really is that cut and dry because as long as you continue to hope that diets will fix things in your life you will continue to create rules around food and thus have the food and body image issues that currently plague you. So let’s review the pros and cons of each option… Option #1 Pros: Continue finding hope in the fantasy that maybe just maybe weight loss will finally happen and fix…
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holiday blog

Not your typical holiday “how to” blog

Several blogs have come my way these past 2 months written to the tune of “How to…[insert something about weight loss, not losing your shizz with food, or staying sane during the holidays].” These blogs are all fine and dandy and I’ve benefited from reading many of them, but I’ve also had a major aversion to the idea of writing my own “How to…over the holidays” blog. Honestly, right now, I don’t like the idea of being another voice in your inbox telling you how to do something. So instead of writing a “how to” blog I want to share with you exactly what I believe about you. My hope is to bring a sense of grounded-ness to you as…
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How to NOT care about what people think of your body

How to NOT care about what people think of your body

Are you scared that if you’re fat no one will love you? Do you worry that if you gain weight then people will think less of you? Have you ever not done something for fear of what others would think about your body? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions then please keep reading! But, to begin, I need to tell you about my dog. (Don’t worry I’m making a point.) I love my dog. Like a lot.  She’s spoiled and probably gets as many gifts, treats and kisses as most human children. And, if someone told me they thought she was anything less than absolutely fabulous I would instantly consider them delirious. I mean how could you not…
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The reason you diet isn't what you think

The reason you diet isn’t what you think

If I asked you what the #1 most important thing in the world to you was, what would you say? My guess is you’d say someone’s name. Either a parent, child, partner, friend or maybe even a pet. Because, after all, we are hard wired to love and be loved. Belonging is inherent to our existence and one of the things we value most in the world. Yes, even those of us who like to march to our own drum or identify as introverted still want to fit in and find our tribe. And, this desire for belonging, I believe, is the #1 reason we have a hard time breaking up with diets. I mean why do you actually want to…
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7 Reasons I Don’t Sell Weight-loss (And why this matters for you!)

Admit it, you’d really like to be in the 5% of people who diet and keep the weight off vs. the 95% of those who gain the weight back in 2.5-5 years (and yes, diet mentality counts as dieting). And, why wouldn’t you? You’re special! You are unique in many ways so why wouldn’t you fall in the 5% when it comes to dieting? But, you also know that losing weight has come at a price for you – lots of upkeep, lots of money/products, constant monitoring of your food, and feeling straight up crazy around carbohydrates. Not to mention, keeping weight off hasn’t been something you’ve ever sustained without going moderately coo-coo and feeling deprived. And here you are…
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